Learning from parenting
Parenting can be most confused state in one’s life. I have been in that whirlpool myself several times. Then at some point I realised I would take note of them so that I may not repeat or might learn something out of it over time.
I brought my girls along with me because all I wanted was best and nothing less for them. I have this strong notion of building foundation right for better future. I believe Australia is most family friendly and child prioritised country. So I couldn’t have asked for more for my girls when I got this opportunity to come here to study..
However, when I joined Uni, all I wanted to do was concentrate on my study and fetch good marks to send back to my sponsor, in my desire to pay back, making my scholarship worth. That was how focus shifted on myself. Then I started feeling guilty for not committing enough time for my girls and aid in their everyday learning. There was this tug of war in my mind between girls and my study. At one point I would reason that, at least I have brought them with me. I didn’t deprive them of seeing me at end of day. Yet at another point, I felt, my girls’ future should be the priority for now as they are at developing age. This went on for whole of first semester.
By next term, I felt more guilty and started giving more time. I realised it was about balancing or managing time properly. So as recovering time manager, Second semester was all about disciplining myself. Whenever they were not around, I would focus on my study. The evenings after class was all devoted to them, dinner, reading and settling in bed on right time.
On few occasions, when I went to pick up elder one from school, I have noticed, most of Aussie kids were so obedient. Parents just need to mention their names on lip to make them hear. When I asked my girl for same, she never listens, always insists on staying longer or oppose.
In hindsight, I knew I was the failure. So I tried to work on one thing at a time. I started with timing everything. For watching ipad, for playing, eating, brushing and stuck to it seriously. This trick worked for bed time, dinner time and everything. “Consistency was the word!” Glad with the first result now, I am into next step of forming basic rules at home. If any success will write another post. However, for now, because we don’t have such information available back home, I thought of sharing these good resources here
Learning to be a parent from this website now.
In an attempt to further myself as a good parent, I have read a few articles.
Brain development takes place in first 6 years of child’s life
For good results I mean for brain development, not school results, these conditions should be met.
- The conducive environment both at home and in community
- Reading activity (http://www.letsread.com.au/)
- Avoid violence
- Physical abuse
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